Children bring joy and light to the home BUT there have good training before the child can become a child that will constantly bring smiles to the faces of their parent and the world at large. Efforts have to be made if the child will bring out the gold within. Some centuries ago in the Roman kingdom whenever a child is born, the child is placed at the feet of the father; if the father picks up the child that means the child is accepted but if otherwise the child is thrown into a pit. Same is applicable today with the help of technology. If any child will be given brought to the world such a child deserve the best, the child should be raised to be different and exceptional.
This is why i have listed this 7 keys to help Parent including me.
BE A MODEL
Growing up I saw my mother being so submissive and respectful, she became my first mentor in Marriage. I had a picture of the wife I wanted to be and the mother I will love to be from my mother. My mother was and is my model. Be the model of your child; the principles taught us by our own parent stand as trees in us and this has made us who we are today, however, we need to ask ourselves constantly the seed we, in turn, is planting in the life of our children that will grow as trees in them.
Children observe and learn fast based on what they see; in this age, you cannot afford to be the Parent of doing as I say not as I do. Parents that are violent, drug addicts, corrupt, alcoholic, wayward do their best to conceal their acts from their children but they fail as they end up bringing attitude and attribute that they possess. The child may seem obedient at the onset abut this is for a while and it is short-lived, after some time the child will rebel. In Nigeria, we have Area fathers who birth Area Sons these children are in every generation, little wonder radicalism doesn’t end. I challenge you today if you want your child to be exceptional, be exceptional and more.
BE SET TO IMPRESS
I was struck by God’s assurance that he knows that Abraham will instruct his children his word. How joyful and pleasant will it be if God can say the same of the new generation parent? Impress the word of God in the life of your children, connect every correction given your child to the word of God. Let God’s principles not be far-fetched from your mouth. State God’s mind on any of their actions you can do this while having dinner, taking them to school, watching a movie, music video and TV Commercials.
I always ask my children “Do u think Jesus will love this act? And why? Let them know it and understand the word. This will help them relate it to their everyday occurrences so that even when you aren’t with them they can act on the word. Act the word and make it look interesting. The word is not boring. ·
DISCIPLINE WITH THE APPLE OR ROD
Spare not the rod and spoil the child is still true in this age, however, beside the Rod let there be an Apple. Let the child be informed that when he disobeys he will receive the Rod but when he obeys the Apple will also be there. Your Apple can be words of encouragement, appreciation, a favourite meal, a word of lifting. Do not allow the only discipline known by your child to be the Rod, Most times the children might feel hated. Children can lose their confidence and self-esteem if the only thing they get from you is a discipline with the Rod Set rules for your child and give clear instructions.
Sometimes children disobey to find out your reactions. Do not spare the child of the discipline the child needs to build his/her character. Oftentimes, it might not be the physical Rod you can give a task to the child with a stated deadline or deprive the child of some certain benefits. No late nights, Finish reading a book, Writing a composition, letter, essay, No TV, Game, Facing a corner of the wall. Ensure you use the rod when the child defaults and the apple when the child obeys.
CORRECT WITH LOVE
Children corrected with love have the tendency of regretting their actions and behave better. They adhere more to instructions because they understand that the correction is done out of Love, not Hatred. Children feel hated and unloved by their parent when they don’t see any sign of love when scolded. Communicate to the child the reason why he or she deserves to be punished before the child is actually punished, let the child see the love in your eyes while you are correcting him or her. Let the child apologise and state the reason why he/she is being punished or scolded this will enable you to confirm the understanding of the child of that situation. Correcting the child with love will not make the child keep the resentment at heart but your love.
KNOW YOUR CHILDREN
Children are unique and different, their thought and actions differ. What works for a child might not work for another. If you will want to influence your child you will need to know and understand that child because this will help you deter what works for the child, how fast the child assimilates, how the child socialize if at all child the does. Some children do not need spanking while some do, some need to be talked to, some need to be listened to. Understand what causes result in your child and what doesn’t. Knowing this will strengthen your relationship with your child and know how to impact that child positively.
FATHERS LOVE THEIR MOTHER
The extent to which that child obeys you as a father will be determined by the extent at which you show the child the love you have for their mother. When you love the mother of your children this prompts gladness in the heart of your child and this makes the child listen and obey your instructions as a Father. As a child growing up I rebelled most of the time to my Father because I did not see the Love he had for my mother so in a bid to fight for my Mum I rebelled against my Father. Love the mother of your child because you are planting the seed of love in the heart of your children towards you and when they love you they will obey your instructions. Remember instructions make high flyers. ·
There is a force in Unity. When both parents stands in agreement they form a team with a force that makes an impact and command obedience. When there isn’t unity and agreement between the parents, the children see this and takes this as your weakness to manipulate. Let the teamwork skills portrayed at our various organizations be brought home. When you don’t in one voice the children sees a Parent as their enemy and the other as their friend. Settle issues you want to discuss with that child before you meet the child; avoid all arguments concerning the child in the presence of the child. As a Team pray and bless your children because it is the almighty God that eventually crowns your effort over them with Success.
I sincerely pray that your children be stars and models to be remembered for good.